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for the last 8 months i have a girlfriend. our relationship is serious, at least compared to my previous chewing-gum-duration ones. i realy like this girl and i spend a lot of my time with her. sometimes i think we could spend many years together and i'd like that.
there's an issue though. ever since i've started going out with her i haven't been able to focus on anything creative. i don't feel at all motivated to read, write or even think creatively. i also work full-time, so what i usually do is work, sleep, meet my gf (not every day), eat - in that order. she doesn't demand an unreasonable amount of my time, but still it's usually a productive part of my day. when i have a day off i either go out with her or relax, watch a hollywood flick or more seldom meet some friends.
i recently spent a lot of money on a hardware studio i always dreamed of but i have spent more time on blogging / em411ing than play with my gear, usually because i only have an hour or less before i have to meet my gf or go to work. i also missed my school's last exam period due to this issue.
the main problem is that now it's so hard to care about all this. i don't find any interest in my old hobbies and it feels like i'm subconciously giving up on my dreams. i've forced myself to put some boundaries: i spend at least a couple of hours each week working on music and promised to myself that however busy i might be i'll try to study for the present exam period.
has anybody had a similar problem? do i have to fight it or should i just let go and it will all come back eventually? should i talk about all this with her? | |
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05/18/07
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ignatius
mlbot said: "3. Electronic musicians are not as cool, but they tend to have fewer drug problems. Unfortunately, they do have serious internet-addictions, which can be difficult to distinguish from "working on music"."
fucking lol.
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monty
combine your hobbies!
circuit bend your girlfriend.
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tylth
like some kind of incest kentucky redneck that went "hu!? wudda ya pontin at me" by the time the picture was taken probably trying not to fart at this moment and the waste of organic matter on his right is the imbecile siamese twin that would only share the anus and go "ihh-ahhh" and "ahiak ahiak" from time to time
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crabster
tylth: And then it turns out it's a real picture.
Relationships are tough. But after 8 odd months you're out of the honeymoon phase, aren't you? The fact that you think about this type of things is a good thing, i think.
I ran across a saying a while ago, "det bästa med tvåsamheten är ensamheten", roughly "the best thing about relationships is loneliness", but it sort of rhymes in swedish.
Umm. I don't know what point I was supposed to be making, perhaps I've had a volksbier too many or something. Anyway, good luck to the both of you.
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opulentaudio
ahhhh.....This is why I have a wife. Find a good one and keep her. Mine just does whatever when I'm working - doesn't even make me use cans anymore. I love life.
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everamzah: i have no idea what "vuluptious" means, but i know exactly what you mean.
tylth: you're wrong. i don't use chopsticks.
btw, the guy is called franck ribery, he's a very succesful footballer. he's like that cause he had a car accident when he was 2.
monty: bent gf squeaky voice would be helluva live instrument
edit:: and it would also have the prettiest interface out there, controls like pinch titty, rub tummy etc 
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j_chot
it'll pass. you'll settle back. it's called love.
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tylth
hah! see, i knew that isn't you and your girl!
wish you all the best for you relationship (both to gf & em)
no hard feelings
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vveerrgg
i can't wait for robot girlfriends... imagine the circuit bending opportunities.. AND live performances.
Awesome thread... lolz
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tylth
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tylth
wow, even this is more than a photo-finish link
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monkvolcano
the way i handle it is.. instead of setting aside time to work on music, i set aside time to spend with the gf, and do music the rest of the time.
yea usually, if you spend one really good evening with her a week she'll be happy.
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bitbare
ask yourself why you buffer your thoughts from her, once you get rid of that dead weight you'll be ale to gauge your desire for her.
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zfigz
"yea usually, if you spend one really good evening with her a week she'll be happy."
hahahahaha, oh man, you're sooo sooo sooooooo wrong. At least not with my girlfriend. I've gotta have at least 3 'really' good nights with my girlfriend for her to be satisfied for the week. Your girl is easy peasy.
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