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parents vs your music

StoreTags: matriachy, parental murder, getting old

Author: quip on January 08 2008

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--> fredo's review blog got me thinking about my last "review". every year i make a cd of tracks that i have done that year and play it to my mum and dad.
this year was no exception. i played the tracks to them in the car.
i was kind of proud of some of them as i am singing and playing the guitar and piano.
first of all my dad kept turning them down, as he needed to "concentrate" on driving the car at 30mph all the time.
then when we did get to listen to them, my mum made the following critique (imagine a non-plussed mum voice):
"it sounds like mike oldfield. your good at creating crecendos, and then dropping out"
my dad
"yeah very mike oldfield, is that you playing the piano?"

it was like the whole world had stopped. i think my mum was right. its scary.
anyone else experienced devastating critiques by parents?

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01/08/08 + mechp

deltasleep said: "My parents used to make so much fun of the music I was listening to that I didn't really even bother showing them what I made. My dad only became interested when I started playing guitar. Now I think my dad and my aunt are the only people who ever even read my blog or listen to anything I make!"

Not true, I lurk your blog!

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01/08/08 + mechp

My parents don't really get my music, but are really supportive. They worry that my songs are all melancholic, but I just keep telling them that art and music [emo face] are catharsis [/emo face].

Every once in a while after playing my dad a song with a particularly catchy hook, I'll catch him humming or whistling it absent-mindedly... that always feels good. I don't make as experimental stuff as most of you, so they can always find a melodic element in my songs that they like.

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01/08/08 + drewzle

i played my parents some of my tracks. at one point i had a sample of Bill Hicks saying "keep drinking beer you fucking morons."
my parents thought i'd recorded myself (with a faux american acccent)
WTF?

01/08/08 + atum

my mom likes my music. she usually calls it disco or asks if its jazz

01/08/08 + astroid

haha the best response i ever got from my mom about my music was a three part harmony of 'goodnight irene' that i recorded for the hell of it. she said 'there's nothing wrong with that, is there?'

lol

and my dad has never acknowledged anything i've given him. BUT they're both very supportive.

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01/08/08 + jack123

my dad once called my music "mamby-pamby bullshit"

and he wonders why I never play anything for him.

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01/08/08 + j_chot

my parents just love everything I do.
they're horrible critics.
but terriffic parents

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01/08/08 + room

Ben - I am so totally with you - so totally had the same experience

I remember finishing a track - years ago - but one i was so so proud of....

and STILL a few months later i was still so proud of it....

i had sent the demo around and had had a meeting with someone from the Orb's management team about getting it released - alex patterson had listened to it FFS and liked it ... but not enough.... but still it felt like quite an endorsement....

i was on a high!

I didn't get the record deal but it gave me the confidence to play it to my mum and dad (I had avoided playing them music for a while due to earlier experiences)

In my mind this track was complex, it was highly developed, it was technically good and mostly more than anything it wrenched my heart strings - it was emotional....

so i got my parents in their lounge and i said "i'd like to play you something i'm proud of.... it took me 160 hours to record and i paid £x pound studio time to do this.... i think its emotional etc"

now because the track was 18 minutes long (think orb "A Huge Ever Growing Pulsating Brain That Rules from the Centre of the Ultraworld")

i decided to play a video (with the sound off) to acompany the track - to give them something to accompany the music - the video was one of computer generated fractals (this was 1992).

and so i played the track

at the end of it.....

My Dad commented ONLY on the fractals and the computer technology that must have been involved in making those images

and my Mum said....

"Where was the emotional bit?"

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01/08/08 + room

so i killed them.....

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01/08/08 + frnortnr

i've never played my music for my mom. i don't think she'd get it at all.

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01/08/08 + tmns

the first time i let my mum hear music i'd recorded she was in tears.(she gets emotional very easily) on a later occasion i was making music in my room and went downstairs for a snack, she said 'what's that your making? that's horrible, i don't like that at all'. since i started making droney ambient stuff, i've had no comment from my parents at all.

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01/08/08 + nicknotis

Thankfully for me Quip, my parents aren't musically sharp enough to make disturbingly correct comparisons. I leave that task to EM411 people.

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01/08/08 + sweettrip

I'm selective with what I play to my parents. I actually don't even try to play them anything. I do give them CDs with stuff but I don't ask them for opinions or anyting like that. Not that they are not supportive. Actually it them many years to be supportive of my music, but there was a point in my life were my parents, specially my mom, wanted me out of the music scene/business/whatever. Pretty dramatic stuff. So I could say that I'm still a little bit hurt because of that, and so i don't really look for their opinions on my music.

The otehr reason is because my mom's stock in the 60s and 70s, and she always has to reference everything with the fucking Beatles. And the only "american" music my dad listens to is country; he's more into spanish music. In other words, he doesn't get it.

I can say though that my parents do appreciate that I have branched out from metal into many other things. My mom recently told me that she was afraid of buying me a guitar when i was a kid because she didnt want me to play in a metal band, LOL

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01/08/08 + AndrewBrewer

j_chot said: "my parents just love everything I do.
they're horrible critics.
but terriffic parents

i'm in the same boat

01/08/08 + thehydrax

Every time I played my music to my mum she would say, "I think you should just get a job"
My dad on the other hand has an astounding collection of Dick Hyman Moog albums. He's asked me for some CDs many times.

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