Coming out of the closet
StoreTags: music, girlfriends, techno
Author: greeezybear on January 16 2008
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--> I have a sort of dillema. I have been making techno for the past couple of months and have showed everyone my work even my mom, except for my girlfriend. I dont know if i could ever tell her. She knows or atleast has seen, my midi controllers/interfaces/expensive record players/sweet stereo system. She hasnt seen me make music, because she doesnt live with me, but I would kind of like to share my passions with her, but I am afraid. How does one come out of the electrocloset?
So far I have been playing more and more dance music in the car when we are driving around, and around the house. Maybe one day I will slip in one of my songs. "baby i have to tell you something. Im, Im a ..... this might be tough to take, you should sit down. I am an electronic musician."
Lots of pressure. Anyway, what are your guys thoughts? Have you told your significant others?
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tantan said: "This all seems a bit strange to me. I guess I've never met anyone who could be so turned off by someone else's creative pursuits that they'd somehow be a deal-breaker, I mean unless those pursuits include assaulting or hurting people, or building / playing with weapons. But, everyone is passionate about something, whether it's making music, playing golf, or eat fudge sundaes. Why would e-music be any different than any other interest?"

Im not afraid of it being a deal breaker, but i dont really want to have her listening to my music, and i dont want her to "support" me by saying my music is "good", since most of it obviously isnt.

share your passions

if you can't share everything with this person, i'm talkin everything (hey honey pull my finger) - then it's just sex, nothing more - nothing real
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my girlfriend says about my music it sounds "pouet pouet". lol!

My wife says mine sounds like an MRI machine or CAT scanner

also she's been known to flip me off in the middle of our live sets because she hates it

i can usually spot the exact moment that my wife starts thinking about shoes
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Dude - ELO is Electric Light Orchestra. They used synthesizers and sang through vocoders. They were techno before techno.

Yes, true... but there's a different feel -- ELO was a rock band that experimented with synthesizers, not a synthesizer band that experimented with rock.
I used to experiment with rock but finally shed that addiction.

what kind of music she likes could be a major factor. in any case, hiding something important about yourself is never a good way to conduct a relationship.
it doesnt build trust and in fact tears it down. if you want your girlfriend to like you just the way you are, like all guys do, then she has to know you just the way you are. if you keep secrets about yourself, then its not the real you that she approves of, just the image you present to her also, the longer you wait, the harder it will be to tell her.

wtf man, just play her a tune of yours. it's that simple. girls like boys who make music, remember?

before my girlfriend was my girlfriend she knew me as this weird wino
who would make mutant 320 bpm drum n bass and rattle the small apartment complex
me and my friend jon lived at with horrible bass waves.

she has always been supportive of what i do and appreciates it wholly and sincerely.

even though the music i make is more sensitive now (i've lost my street cred)

if your lady can't accept you for who you are then you'll just have to change--

and stop making music HA!

why haven't you posted anything in your profile btw?
then maybe i could understand why your girlfriend wouldn't like it.
post or stfu.

this blog should have never been created. the answers have been obvious from everyone here. if you like it, why havent you shown it to her. seriously, you must be young. any girl that would dump you over the kind of music you make is definatley shallow.

I'd get over the "embarrassed by your music" thing if you expect to like your tracks. And if you don't like your tracks, no one else will.

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